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February 2002

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New Resolutions 

By Leena Nash

I will work on self-improvement.  This includes taking up a new sport, attempting to learn another language, learning a dance, and losing some weight.

I will be a better person - happier, more forgiving, more thankful, more understanding.

 

Another year gone by, and once again, I haven't been successful in fulfilling the 2001 resolutions.  That isn't surprising - I have never been able to fulfill them.  So before I put pen to paper yet again, I decided to review last years resolutions and decide what percentage of them were achieved and how realistic they really were.

Resolutions for 2001 (written 12/30/2000):

1. I will reach my ideal, yet ever unattainable weight of one hundred and (oops, maybe this is one detail I can omit for this article)...ok, I will lose 10 pounds (that sounds better!).

---> I stepped on the scale this morning and observed that I hadn't lost an ounce, let alone a pound.  But then, I did what every woman does in a vain attempt to console herself, and congratulated myself for not gaining a pound!  I even went further to compare myself to those friends who had actually gained weight this year, and I felt EVEN better!  Wow - this psychology is great.  Despite not having achieved even 1% of this particular resolution, I feel great!

2. I will spend more time doing 'fun' things with my kids, and less time worrying about their progress, and nagging them about homework.

---> Hmmm.  My kids are doing WAY more homework now than they were last year.  But I did cutback on the extra curricular activities, and I am able to spend more down time with them.  So, I will give myself 50% on this one (yippee!).

3. I will work on self-improvement.  This includes taking up a new sport, attempting to learn another language, learning a dance, and losing some weight.

---> Well, I didn't take up a sport, but I have a befitting reason!  I have a bad knee.  Of course, my knee has been bad for the past 17 years now, so even when I wrote the resolution I knew I couldn't fulfill it.   But my intentions were genuine, and it certainly looked good in ink.  As for the language, I did ATTEMPT to learn Spanish, so I am giving myself full points here.  And I even managed to take belly-dancing classes.  Ok, I am definitely on a roll here.  Oops, there's that darn weight thing again...oh well, the less said about that, the better.  I think I should get 50% here - whaddya say?

4. Something totally unexpected will happen to me, career wise.

---> Ok, now before I go any further, I can safely say I get 100% here.  Before the year was up, I managed to switch jobs, AND get laid off!!  I would call that unusual and unexpected.  Not exactly the big career boost I was hoping for, but worse things could've happened.  The way my resolution was worded saved me though, so I deserve 100% here, wouldn't you agree?

(Last, but not the  least)


5.  I will be a better person - happier, more forgiving, more thankful, more understanding.

---> In light of this year's events, I think I am in the same boat as others when I say that I am more thankful, for my loved ones are all safe and sound; I am happier because I have loving and healthy children with whom I get to spend more time now that I am not working.  But I don't know if I improved on the forgiving and understanding factors.  The loss of so many innocent lives on 9-11; a friend's son dying in a car accident at the ripe age of 17; my daughter's 8 year old classmate being diagnosed with terminal cancer (she died Dec. 21/01); and some other personal trials. I have had to face this year are all issues I am having trouble understanding and, in some cases,  forgiving.

Why do we feel the need to establish a list of 'wrongs we could right' at the close of each year?  Maybe so we can begin each year with whole-hearted intentions, and end that same year with reflections on our accomplishments, regardless of how minor they might seem.  Whatever the reasons may be, the new year resolutions tradition is one this author will definitely continue.  The first item on my list this year?  Lose 10 pounds! :)