have often heard parents tell their children how much they have
sacrificed for them during the growing years. Just last
week a topic came up, and my mother reminded me of how hard she
worked over the years to raise my sisters and me. While I
whole-heartedly agree that most parents GIVE 100% to their
children, I rarely hear about what all parents GET from their
children in return.
During the past year we have seen it all, from the fall of the
stock market to the latest anthrax fear. During
tax season my husband tapped away at the PC and informed me how
much we lost last year. After a few days depression, I
reminded myself that we have our health, and 2 beautiful kids.
I owe them big time, for their laughter, smiles and constant
inquiries (a great entertainment!) eased the pain of having lost
so much money.
On September 11th, the attack on the WTC made everything I had
faced until then seem insignificant. I felt guilty about crying
over money, job satisfaction, and the extra 10 pounds I am
carrying...you name it. I realized more so than usual, how
precious life is, and how lucky I am to have my 2 daughters with
me. As I answered their million questions about the attack
and destruction of the Twin Towers, I fought back tears, held
them tightly, and thanked God that everything I valued was right
here, safe in my arms.
In October, 4 punks who were stealing the stereo out of his car
ran over my friendís 17-year-old son in a cinema parking lot.
He died a few hours later from massive trauma. As I
searched for words to say to console his grieving mother, I
questioned the existence of God. When I returned home from
the funeral that day wondering what kind of a God would allow
something like this to happen to such a nice boy, I was greeted
at the door by my 2 cheerful children. When I saw their
smiling faces, I realized that there must be a God out there and
I must have done something right to be blessed with 2 healthy,
Last week, I had to say good-bye to a dear, close friend who is
moving to another country. It was another sad moment for
me, even though the move is for brighter opportunities.
But this event got me thinking about how I will feel when my
kids leave the house. I realized that the few years I have
left with them will whiz by, and I had better cherish every hour
I have with them now. As I lay in bed with them that
evening, thinking about how much I will miss my friend, I also
thought about the wonderful experiences I have to look forward
to with my kids.
Now, as I stand here on the brink of being laid off, my only
consolation prize is that I get to spend more time with my kids.
Although I will miss not working (and miss the money), I won't
allow even this layoff to dampen my spirits, thanks to my
children. As much as we give to them, we get back
immeasurable security, joy, compassion and a sense of
tranquility from them.
This article is dedicated to all kids, and I hope my children
will read it someday to know how much they helped me during my
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