My Twin and I
The Unique Bond
My Twin and I
By Sunita Verghese
On the early morning of 7th August 1964, my
identical twin sister and I were introduced to this world. We were
born in a German hospital in one of Nigeria's cities called Abeokuta.
Both our parents are Indians by birth but were working as teachers
Having twins, came as a huge surprise to my
parents as they did not know of our double existence, till my Mom
had undergone an X-ray examination, a few weeks prior to our birth.
The doctors had mentioned that we were identical twins,
sharing a single placenta.
Being all alone in Nigeria, with just having each other to depend
on, my parents devoted their time and energy in bringing us up as
two healthy babies. My Mom had a sixty year old nanny to take
care of us, when she and my Dad were off to work. "Mamma" took
care of us very well. She would tie my twin sister in the back of
her waist and carry me in the front. Once when my parents returned
from work, Mamma told them that both of us had convulsions at the
same time so she had applied red chilly powder on our eyes to bring
the fever down!!!
As we grew up, my parents insisted that we wore identical clothes,
combed our hair alike and always did everything together. Perhaps,
they did not want us to be different, since we began our life
sharing everything. As children, growing up as identical twins, in
Nigeria, was even extra special, as we were considered by the locals
as good luck charms!!
Everywhere we went, our parents were showered with gifts or money,
so that we would bring them good luck and prosperity.
My Dad was very particular in dressing us up identically. Once my
Dad saw one of my buttons off on my sweater, he immediately tore off
the button in my sister's sweater. Another time, when my sister
began wearing eyeglasses, my Dad insisted that I wear a pair of
non-prescribed spectacles too, so that we would look alike!!
Both my parents brought us up with so much love and pride. They
celebrated our birthdays with such huge parties. Even till today,
after 37years of our birth, my Dad and Mom would insist to bake our
birthday cake, decorate it themselves and celebrate it, with or
without us being by their side!!
When we both had completed our Masters in Nigeria, our parents
brought us to India to get us married. My twin and I got married
within two weeks apart. We went for our honeymoon together
with our husbands to Goa.
Both of our husbands had jobs in Bombay, India then. It gave my
parents the assurance that we always would be together even though
we had married into two different families. Our twin bond become
stronger as we were staying away from each other. We never missed a
day without speaking or meeting each other. Once, during our stay in
Bombay, both of us fell sick at the same time. Our husbands were
taken by surprise, seeing us in the same state, realising then, that
their wives will always share this special bond that can never be
Today, both of us have two children each, a boy and a girl, not
twins! But we still share a lot of common similarities and continue
to amaze our relatives and friends with our twin telepathy and
bond. The other day, we even bought our husbands exactly the same
card for Valentines Day although we were in two different
Identical twins all over the world will agree with me when I say "Twins
Are Magical and Mystical In Every Way"!!!
The Unique Bond Of Twins
By Sabeena Varkey
It was only a month before my mom's delivery date
that her doctor detected another fetal heart beat. Immediately, our
excited parents rushed out shopping for another set of baby stuff.
They were getting ready for the arrival of their first born, a pair
Over the years it seemed that a bond grew evident between us,
sisters. It's origin, which began with the sharing of a common
placenta right in the confined space of our mother's womb .According
to an old African folktale, I was sent out first, to "checkout" the
outside world before my twin sister followed.
Ever since I remember, we both have shared a very unique and
extra-special bond. This bond became more evident when we were
separated by marriage later in life. We were both alike and our dad
went to great lengths to amplify this by dressing us up exactly
alike. Once I clearly remember him pulling out a button off my
sweater at the airport because my twin lost one of hers!
We both had each other all the time. We played together for hours
and did not miss any other friends. We had our share of usual fights
and always defended each other once any outsider intervened.
We always made up pretty quickly. We both complimented each other.
Together we made an inseparable team. We always talked together
especially while narrating an event to a friend or family. During
our Masters program, we went to two different departments in the
same university. This was the initial separation. Our friends always
mistook us for each other. We had fun exchanging various incidents
later in the day. The bond we shared became more pronounced when we
got married and begun to lead separate lives. Our husbands were
intrigued at the way we read each others minds. The so-called "telepathy"
effect between identical twins became more evident. We would know
exactly when each other rang the doorbell or called on the phone. At
various meetings, we ended up wearing similar clothes unknowingly.
We have even fallen sick at the same time. Our
common friends receive their birthday cards from us on the same day.
We also do end up calling them on the same day. When we call our
parents from different locations, we narrate similar events and
share the same thoughts with them. Friends always notice that we
sound the same on the phone.
There are innumerable small incidents that signify this bond we
share. Till this date, we both keep in touch nearly everyday and we
usually sense how each other feels before even listening.
This special bond is yet to be attributed to any scientific basis
but left as another mystery of nature. We are both fortunate to
continue to experience this bond, unique only to identical twins!!!